Community Guidelines

Tova exists to make your social life expansive, not exhausting. These guidelines exist to keep our community safe, generous, and worth showing up for. They apply to every member, host, and guest, across every Tova event, Tribe, Space, and platform interaction.

By participating in Tova, you agree to uphold them.

1. Respect & Inclusion

Tova is built for people who want to grow their lives, not police anyone else's. Treat every member, regardless of background, identity, profession, or stage of life, with the same warmth you'd want extended to you.

• No discrimination, slurs, or targeted hostility based on race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality, religion, ability, body, or socioeconomic status.
• No mocking, belittling, or excluding members from conversations or group activities.
• Disagreement is fine. Contempt is not.

2. Safety & Consent

Every member should feel physically and emotionally safe at Tova.

• No harassment, intimidation, stalking, or unwanted advances, in person or online.
• "No" is a complete sentence. Respect it the first time.
• Tova is not a dating app. Romantic interest is a normal part of social life, but Tribes, events, and Spaces are not pickup environments. Read the room and back off if interest isn't mutual.
• Any form of physical aggression, threats, or non-consensual contact will result in immediate removal.

3. Privacy & Confidentiality of Members

What members share inside Tova stays inside Tova.

• Don't share another member's personal information, contact details, photos, or stories outside the community without their explicit permission.
• Don't screenshot private chats, RSVPs, or attendee lists for use elsewhere.
• Don't use Tova's member directory, Tribes, or events to build prospect lists, mailing lists, or any form of outreach database.

4. Substance Use at Events

Many Tova experiences involve alcohol. That's part of social life. Use good judgment.

• Drink at your own pace. Don't pressure others to drink, and respect anyone who chooses not to.
• Never spike, tamper with, or alter someone's drink.
• Illegal substances are not permitted at any Tova event or Space.
• If you see a member who is unwell or unsafe, alert the host or Tova team immediately.

5. Photography & Social Media Etiquette

Tova is a place where people show up as themselves. Protect that.

• Always ask before photographing or filming someone, especially in close-up or identifiable shots.
• If a member asks not to be tagged, posted, or featured, honour it without negotiation.
• Don't post content that identifies who attended a private or invitation-only event without organiser approval.
• Don't use Tova events as backdrops for paid content, brand promotions, or sponsored posts without prior approval from the Tova team.

6. No Solicitation or Business Promotion

Tova Tribes, events, and Spaces are not marketing channels.

• Members may not use Tribes, chats, member lists, or events to promote, pitch, sell, recruit clients, or drive traffic to a personal business, service, or product.
• This includes soft-selling in conversations, DMing members with offers, posting promotional content in Tribe chats, and using Tova attendance as a lead-generation tool.
• If you believe your business genuinely fits a Tribe or community moment (e.g. you teach yoga and want to host a session for the Wellness Tribe), disclose it to the Tova team in advance and discuss it with us. Nothing promotional should happen inside Tova without that prior conversation.
• Repeated breaches will result in warnings, suspension, or removal at Tova's discretion.

7. Show Up Like You Mean It

Tova works because people show up.

• RSVP honestly. If you can't make it, cancel in advance so someone else can take your spot.
• Repeated no-shows or last-minute cancellations may affect your access to popular events.
• Hosts put real effort into curating experiences. Treat their time and craft with respect.

8. Reporting & Enforcement

If something feels off, tell us. We'd rather hear about it once too often than once too late.

• Members can report concerns confidentially to the Tova team via the app or email.
• All reports are reviewed by the Tova team. We aim to act fairly, listen to all parties involved, and protect the privacy of the reporter wherever possible.
• Enforcement is discretionary. Depending on the nature and severity of a breach, outcomes may include a private conversation, a formal warning, suspension, or permanent removal from Tova. We don't operate a fixed strike system because real situations rarely fit neatly into one.

Conduct Outside Tova Events

Member safety doesn't end at the door.

If a credible report is made about a member's conduct outside a Tova event, for example, harassment, sexual misconduct, violence, threats, fraud, or doxxing involving another member, the Tova team reserves the right to investigate and act on it.

• We will only act on reports that, if the same conduct had occurred at a Tova event, would warrant removal.
• We do not adjudicate personal disputes, friendship fallouts, breakups, or matters unrelated to member safety.
• The decision to issue a warning, suspend, or remove a member based on off-event conduct rests solely with the Tova team, made on a case-by-case basis after fair review.

We take this seriously because we believe a community is only as safe as the people inside it. Membership at Tova is a privilege, not a right.

A Final Note

Tova is a club, but it's also a posture. We're betting on a generation that wants more out of their social lives: more depth, more momentum, more people who get it. These guidelines exist so that bet pays off for everyone in the room.

Look out for each other. Show up well. The rest takes care of itself.